Australia is still reeling in
horror as more details
emerge of Operation Auxin,
Australia's first major
crackdown on internet
child pornography.
The Australian Federal Police
ave confirmed that teachers, a
child-care centre owner, a nurse,
pastor, a counsellor, executives
and even police officers have been
involved in internet-based crimes
against our children. At the time of
going to press, 2177 charges had
been laid and 214 arrests or
summonses were made.
Dismissing the usual stereotype
of 'dirty old men', commander of the
NSW Child Protection and Sex Crime
squad Superintendent Kim McKay
described many of those charged
is: 'Mr Joe Average. He is married
with children and a good job.'
Most of the alleged offenders were,
until now, respected members of the
community. Many were known to
their victims and even loved by them.
And that's exactly why parents are
panicking. We've told our kids about
stranger danger, but how do we tell
them they need to be wary of the
people we trust to take care of them?
How do we warn them that it's not
just strangers they need to be afraid
of, but family and friends who are
supposed to love them?
Kylie Newman is a co-founder of
MAKO (Movement Against Kindred
Offenders), a non-profit organisation
Of concerned people who lobby for
harsher penalties for sex offenders,
and she says no one is safe.
'That's not being alarmist, that's
being realistic/she states. 'You can't
trust anyone anymore and parents
need to be suspicious of anyone
who deals with their kids.'
MAKO, which is calling for mandatory
and lengthy jail terms for all paedophiles, has
has compiled a
1050 convicted sex offenders and has posted it on the internet.
MAKO's website has photographs
of some offenders and it has even
organised letterbox deliveries to
notify more than 60 communities of
paedophiles living secretly amongst
them. The scary part is, many of the
offenders have been found living
within 500 metres of schools,
kindergartens and playgrounds.
Kylie admits that civil rights
campaigners have criticised MAKO's
actions as an invasion of privacy
but says: 'The human rights of
children are more important than
the rights of convicted sex offenders.
It's criminal for parents not to know.
'Notifying the public about sex
offenders and their whereabouts
has nothing to do with shaming
them; it's about preventing victims
and deterring offenders. We are
about encouraging parents to be
vigilant, not vigilantes.
'There is a high percentage of
re-offending among paedophiles
and research shows they are unlikely
to ever change. We have no doubt
we have helped unsuspecting
parents keep their children safe.
Director of the Australian High
Tech Crime Centre within the
Australian Federal Police
Mike Phelan says the internet
has allowed paedophiles to
flourish and increased the
availability and acceptance of
hard-core child pornography.
'Some people involved in this
type of activity do not see the
viewing and dissemination of
photos to be a crime, but every
child pornographic image portrays
a real victim and records an act
abuse against a child', he says.
New Idea (30-10-2004)
Bronwyn Marquardt
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# Teach your kids sex education. Even toddlers can be told
parts of their body covered by bathing suits are private.
# Be open with your kids. Make sure they know they can Tell
you anything, even something that will upset you.
# Avoid scare tactics. Explain that while most adults won't
hurt them some are dangerous and they must be careful.
# Warn them that it's not just strangers who hurt kids,
Sometimes people they love will hurt them, but it's okay
to tell you because you will protect them.
# Explain you will never send a stranger to pick them up
without telling them, even in an emergency.
# Tell them there should be no secrets, even with adults.
# Never make them kiss or hug anyone they don't want to,
including aunties and uncles.
# If they seem scared or uneasy about an adult, ask why.
# Monitor their internet usage, and social and educational
lives. Know where they're going and who they're with.
# Don't be complacent Just because someone seems
trustworthy doesn't mean they are.
# Talk about paedophiles and discuss scenarios regularly.
For example, say: 1f a man asked you to help him take his
sick puppy to the vet, or a woman offered you lollies to give
her directions, what would you do?'
# Remind them some paedophiles are teenagers, or have
women to help them.
# Give them a mobile phone so they can call you at anytime.
# If they do confide in you, believe them.
# Trust your instincts and teach your kids to do so, too.
# If something doesn't feel right, it often isn't.
# If you catch your partner looking at child
pornography, or suspect him of
being a paedophile, get help.
# Talk to the police, call
Crimestoppers on 1800 333 000,
visit www.mako.org.au or contact
the Internet Watch Foundation
(www.iwf.org.uk), an organisation
that works with governments and
telecommunications operators to
stamp out illegal internet content.
# You can report child pornography
internet sites to the Australian
Broadcasting Authority - visit
www.aba.gov.au.
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Special Report- Case Study
(All names have been changed)
Single mum-of-two Sarah has been
living every mother's nightmare since
she found out her 'perfect' fiance was
abusing her daughter Anna.
Sarah had fallen for a senior colleague,
Peter, at work four years earlier and at
the time thought she'd found the man
of her dreams.
'I was vulnerable,' she admits. 'I was
financially insecure, my ex-husband
lived overseas, and I was bringing up
my son and daughter from that marriage
on my own. Then I met Peter and he
offered me the world. He had a good
job, he loved me and he was wonderful
with the kids, particularly Anna. She even
called him Daddy,' Sarah explains.
'We bought a nice house together, and
he promised to give the children a good
education, which I never could have
afforded. I thought he would be the
perfect husband and father.'
One night, when Anna was seven,
Sarah walked past Anna's room and
saw Peter sitting on her bed.
'In that moment, I Just got a feeling
I can't describe, but I suppose it was a
mother's instinct that something wasn't
right,'Sarah says.
The next morning, without even
knowing why, Sarah went into Anna's
room and said: 'If anyone ever tried to
touch you or hurt you in a way that
wasn't right, would you tell me?'
'She looked at me in a funny way, shut
the door and said: "What about Dad?"
and started to cry.
Sarah was devastated Although she loved Peter, she and the kids left the
house that same day and moved in
with Sarah's parents.
This was the man I thought was
my rock, but there was no way I could
forgive him for hurting Anna and
betraying us like that. I get so angry
when I hear of women who stay with
child abusers thinking they will change,
You can't take that risk. Your children
must always come first,' she says.
Over the next few months, Sarah was
by Anna's side as she talked to the police,
gave video evidence, talked to counsellors,
and endured a soul-destroying internal
medical examination to gain physical
evidence of the abuse.
'I can't describe how awful it was
to watch my seven-year-old daughter
go through all that,' Sarah recalls.
'She was so depressed and
confused she said she wanted to
die. She was on suicide watch at the
hospital at one stage. She felt guilty
about everything, even telling me,
because she felt if she'd kept the secret,
our family would still be together.
It took her 14 months of counselling
and love from her family and friends to
accept that it wasn't her fault.
'I felt guilty that I'd brought Peter into
her life and exposed her to that. My whole
world was spinning and I felt like we'd
lost everything,' Sarah concedes.
Peter was charged with two counts
of sexual assault of a minor, and two
counts of digital rape. Although he initially
denied the charges, faced with Anna's
strong video evidence, he eventually
admitted the abuse and pleaded guilty.
He will be sentenced in the near future.
Though Anna's counsellors believe
the brave nine-year-old is yet to tell all
about the extent of the abuse, Sarah is
proud the little girl was able to confide
in her so that she could put a stop to it.
'If she hadn't told me, I'd probably have
married him and the abuse would have
been much worse,' says Sarah.
'All I can say to other mothers is don't
wait for your kids to tell you they're being
abused, you have to talk to them about it
and ask them. You might get an answer
you don't want, but at least you can do
something about it'.
Sarah has followed the news of
Operation Auxin with relief and horror.
I'm relieved there is finally something
being done, but I think it's just the tip of
the iceberg,' she adds.
'I watch the news and I cry: because it
brings it all back. The police have told me
that what Peter did to us is pretty
common with paedophiles. They pick a vulnerable
mother to groom them to get to the kids.
Anna is pretty and blonde, with
big blue eyes and as cute as a
button, and she really wanted a daddy.
We played right into his hands,' she says.
'Neither of us will probably ever trust a
man again, but if telling our story stops
this from happening to even one more
family, it will mean what happened to
Anna has at least helped keep another
child safe,' Sarah states.
New Idea (30-10-2004)
Bronwyn Marquardt
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